Your Mid-Year Reset: The Honest Check-In I Didn't Know I Needed
I recently had a conversation that called me out.
Not in a harsh way.
Not in a judgemental way.
But in the kind of loving, honest way that only someone who truly knows you can.
The conversation was with my fitness coach, who also happens to be my cousin. During our chat, she reflected back to me some of the goals I'd set at the beginning of the year and gently challenged me on whether my current habits were actually aligned with the future version of myself I often speak about.
The truth?
I didn't entirely like the answer.
Because whilst I've made significant progress in my business this year, there are other areas of my life where I've drifted.
And I suspect I'm not alone.
When Success in One Area Masks Misalignment in Another
If you'd asked me how the year was going, I would have told you about the business growth.
The workshops.
The coaching.
The products.
The plans.
The things I'm proud of.
But what I hadn't stopped to examine was the cost.
Not financially.
Personally.
Somewhere along the way I'd started prioritising productivity over wellbeing.
I'd convinced myself I was too busy to consistently prioritise movement.
Too busy to properly switch off.
Too busy to create space for joy.
The reality is that life rarely slows down by itself.
If we want balance, we have to create it.
Sometimes We Drift
One of the reasons I think mid-year reflections are so important is because they allow us to notice where we've drifted.
Not failed.
Drifted.
There is a difference.
Most people don't wake up one day and decide to abandon their goals.
They simply stop checking in with them.
Days become weeks.
Weeks become months.
Before they know it, they're operating on autopilot.
That's why reflection matters.
Not as an opportunity to criticise ourselves.
But as an opportunity to reconnect.
Grief, Survival Mode and Self-Abandonment
This year has been heavier than I realised.
I've lost two people I love within nine months.
Whilst I've continued showing up, running my business and supporting others, I think part of me has been operating from survival mode.
Sometimes when we're grieving or carrying emotional weight, we become focused on functioning.
Getting through the day.
Keeping things moving.
Meeting responsibilities.
And whilst there's nothing wrong with that, eventually we have to ask ourselves:
Am I living?
Or am I simply surviving?
That question hit me harder than I expected.
The Future Self Exercise
One of my favourite coaching questions is:
"What would my future self do?"
Not because our future self is perfect.
But because she represents alignment.
She represents the version of us living in accordance with our values.
After my conversation, I spent some time reflecting on her.
How does she care for herself?
What does she prioritise?
What standards does she hold?
What does she no longer negotiate on?
Most importantly:
Are my current actions helping me become her?
Or keeping me where I am?
Questions For Your Mid-Year Reflection
As we move into the second half of the year, I invite you to spend some time reflecting on these questions:
What am I proud of this year?
What challenges have I overcome?
What has surprised me?
What feels aligned?
What feels out of alignment?
Where am I making excuses?
What do I need more of?
What do I need less of?
What would make me proud by December?
You're Not Behind
If there's one thing I hope you take away from this post, it's this:
You are not behind.
Life is not a race.
This is not a report card.
You don't need to start over.
You simply need to reconnect.
Reconnect with your values.
Reconnect with your vision.
Reconnect with your wellbeing.
Reconnect with yourself.
The year isn't over.
There is still time.
And perhaps your greatest growth won't come from doing more.
Perhaps it will come from becoming more aligned with who you already are.
With gratitude,
Tally x