Follow the Plan, Not Your Mood: The Power of Self-Leadership and Showing Up Anyway
Motivation feels good, but it’s unreliable.
If I only worked, posted, coached, or created when I felt like it, I wouldn’t have a business. I’d have a mood diary.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned, both in sales and as a coach, is that your emotions don’t determine your results, your actions do.
Following the plan, not your mood, is emotional maturity in action. It’s the practice of choosing alignment over impulse, purpose over procrastination, and leadership over comfort.
Because here’s the truth:
Running a business isn’t just about strategy. It’s about energy. It’s about who you become in the moments when no one’s watching, when it’s quiet, when you’re tired, when you’re doubting yourself but still deciding to show up anyway.
Showing Up Through Chaos
Earlier this year, I went through one of the hardest seasons of my life. My dad had two strokes, I also had a loved one who was battling terminal cancer, all as I was planning my Women’s Wellness Day event, working my sales role, leading a team, building my business.
I was balancing hospital visits, work, and my sales team, people who relied on me for leadership and energy, while also trying to hold space for my clients, my community, and myself.
There were mornings where I felt like I had nothing left to give. But I kept showing up.
Not perfectly, but intentionally.
Sometimes it was as simple as sending a “good morning” message in my team chat. It sounds small, but that daily act reminded me: You’re still here. You’re still leading. You can still bring light even in the heaviness.
That’s what self-leadership really is.
It’s grace wrapped in grit. It’s doing your best even when your heart feels heavy. It’s learning that discipline isn’t cold or rigid, it’s a form of self-love.
The Shift from Emotional Reactivity to Self-Leadership
There’s a quiet power that comes from following through on what you said you’d do.
Every time you take action despite discomfort, you’re building something much bigger than a to-do list, you’re building self-trust.
And self-trust is magnetic.
Because when you know you’ll show up for yourself no matter what, you stop waiting for the right moment, the right feeling, or the right level of confidence.
You move. You lead. You create.
And that’s the energy that clients, opportunities, and abundance respond to, not perfection, but consistency.
Your emotions aren’t the enemy. They’re feedback.
They tell you what needs your attention, but they don’t get to make the decisions.
You wouldn’t hand your car keys to a toddler, so don’t hand your business to your emotions.
Let your plan drive, and let your feelings ride shotgun.
Becoming Solution-Oriented
When you stop letting your mood lead, you start seeing possibilities instead of problems.
You stop spiralling and start solving.
That’s what being solution-oriented really means — it’s not about ignoring what you feel, it’s about using it as data, not direction.
Because your feelings are temporary, but your purpose isn’t.
When you anchor into that, into your why, your actions stop being reactive and start being intentional.
Self-Leadership = Safety
Consistency builds more than momentum.
It builds safety.
Every time you follow through, even on the small things, you’re showing your nervous system, “We’re safe. We can rely on us.”
And from that sense of inner safety, you make better decisions. You create better content. You serve from overflow instead of exhaustion.
You don’t wait to feel ready, you act ready, and the feeling follows.
So the next time you feel off, pause and ask yourself:
👉🏽 “Am I following my mood or my plan?”
Then take one aligned action, something small but meaningful that your future self will thank you for.
Because your future self isn’t waiting on your motivation.
She’s waiting on your consistency.
And every time you choose to follow the plan — not your mood — you’re showing her that you’re already becoming her.
That’s self-leadership.
That’s emotional discipline.
That’s power in motion.